Quitting drinking
is a faceoff with honesty. You have to
win it. It's sudden death, so to speak.
My winning percentage
in the hockey dept.of my life dealing
with alcohol isn't good. I like to think
of myself as an honest person all around.
I have focused and improved so much of living around honesty and
fairness. Introspection isn't lost on
me. Being dreadfully honest with myself is always a goal. Alcohol is another matter. I have lied consistently about the use and
abuse, health risks, and general surliness that arises because of the use of
alcohol in my daily diet. It is humbling.
I found this book in a Little Free Library (https://littlefreelibrary.org/) in the Town Park. It kick-started a desire of health once again, realizing alcohol is destroying me slowly and my life is built around it. I am slow suicide at work. Alcohol Lied To Me by Craig Beck was a good crutch for me to get back into healthy thinking and think hard about thinking, acting and peace of mind. He reinforced the idea that has worked for me in the past, that is, alcohol is an organic molecule, an addictive toxic substance. Possibly, my Irish/German genetics or lifelong behavior, either one, my liver processes enough enzyme ACH to breakdown enough Alcohol to kill a horse. And I'll do it again tomorrow.
Psychological examination is the last thing to be addressed, as the alcohol will set to
destroy your liver, kidneys, digestive track, lungs and heart, muscle mass and
after many years of drinking alcohol your brain is the most damaged. When it gets that time you are on the
downhill slope. As I am, today. I knew all this before, but I forgot it for
20 years.
He claims to be a
hypnotist and a Super Salesman, so reader beware. Of course, he is selling video coaching,
etc. If his approach is helping people,
good for him. It's a bad business plan
to coach someone to wellness. Then they
don't need you anymore. If he is
successful, he's not making money, as I see it. The vast number of PDA's
(Problem Drinkers of America) should keep him busy.
If you have been in
this seat before with self-help books, the heavy handed list of questions one
has to embarrassingly answer to prove to yourself that you are (an) alcoholic
(that was 45 yrs ago for me) was trimmed to five, thankfully, and each squarely
hit me between the eyes. I'm an addict
like all the other addicts. I've been
stepping on others in order to validate my own addiction. Hypocritical behavior from a very confused
man is my weak defense. Mr. Beck's
personal story seems sincere, I can identify with his life in many ways. It doesn't drive the book. Being honest with yourself is the message.
The (an) is
important to me because I am alcoholic.
The -ic part is a meant for a descriptive adjective. When alcoholic is used as noun, an alcoholic,
inevitably judgement leading to shame shows up.
The cornerstone of success, for me, is to honestly admit to myself I
cannot knowingly put alcohol in my system.
The responsibility is all mine. I believe Mr. Beck would agree. Life is getting better just in these last few
weeks.
I wish the word
"ego" would be agreeably defined for polite conversation. It's always a red flag to me as it leads to
some kind of submission which doesn't work for me, meanwhile, psychopaths run
wild in society and are rewarded. No one
checks their "ego". I need all
the energy I can get to quit and I'm not giving my energy to God, Guru or
Government. If I take responsibility, I
want credit. His chapter on this concept
didn't ring a bell, but bringing your past/future brackets in perspective and
how it serves you we agree on.
One more nice
subtle piece of advise resonated with me.
Keep it to yourself. It truly is
a private affair. "Want a
beer", "No, thanks."." What's the matter with you?"
"No, thanks" is all you have to say. Everything you say will be used
by the Misérables to shame you, drag you crab-like back into the bucket. Don't give the evidence for your own
conviction. Don't re-live the Glory Days
pissing on yourself with others. We all
want to belong and share, but this journey is no one else' business.
I do not intend to
use this blog as a sob story soap
opera. There will be no more personal
stories on this subject. Just know I'm
doing well. My wish is that maybe someone can see Wesley's story as I saw Craig
Beck's story. Maybe we can all coach
each other back to health.
Thanks, Mr. Beck
for your good heart. Your book was the
final bean on the pile. My best wishes
to you and the family. I intend to place
it back into the Little Free Library and your book can help someone else.
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